When I was dating, I had a mental list of specifications that I was looking for in my husband. I also had a “no way” list, which was my list of “unacceptable” qualities. Quite often, I did not even consider dating people because of the qualities tey did, or did not have, even before getting to know them. Does this sound familiar to you? It is quite common to have a list of acceptable and unacceptable qualities when you are looking for a mate.

I must tell you that the man I have been happily married to for 14 years is actually quite different than the man I had planned to marry. How can that be? Well, there came a time that I reconsidered my “list”, and realized that many of the specifications that I demanded were actually unimportant in the big picture of life. Would I really only be happy with a blond husband? It is amazing how happy I am with a brunette! Sure, I had reasons for many of the superficial demands I had, but they weren’t qualities that would truly make me happy.

Have you considered your “list” lately? You may be shocked by the people that could make you very happy, if only you let them!